Remembering Poe Cat

Jennifer Stefanow • October 11, 2024
A close up of a black cat with blue eyes

Our beloved Poe cat ascended to his next adventure on June 26, 2023. We honor his passing and remember this special family member. Poe cat gave Jennifer a reason to continue during her darkest days. You can honor his legacy by buying a copy of his book by clicking here. All proceeds benefit RAICES.

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How do you write a eulogy for the “person” who saved your life? It doesn’t matter if he had four legs instead of two. Little Poe cat had more humanity than most humans I know.


Perhaps it’s best if I keep this as he would have wanted: short and sweet. He was the most loving soul who ever lived, but he was also simple. The smallest things delighted him: the warmth of home, the caress of a caring hand, nourishing food in his wee belly.

 

Many thanks to all of you who offered words of comfort during this time of grief. You have no idea how much it helps to know that Poe cat was so loved. He may have begun his life in this world homeless and alone, but he spent his final moments surrounded by his loving family and a caring veterinarian team.


Many thanks, too, to the Universe and the folks I work with for giving me this time to spend with him and grieve. Although his last days contained more pain than I would have wanted, they were also filled with love. Our last Sunday together, we laid in bed the whole day, just being with each other. I can’t tell you how precious the gift of those final hours was.


And his legacy will live on. Before he passed, Poe gave me the title of the second book, something I’ve been struggling with since its conception. Poe, Onyx and Squeeks will likely complete sometime in 2024. It will be the second book in his legacy and charitable quest.


Poe came into my life when I had nothing to live for. Every day was pain. Still, every morning, I looked forward to seeing him on my porch, to guessing how many cans of Sheba he would devour, to seeing how close I could get without scaring him. Every day, we built a bond of trust, even as the rest of my world collapsed around me.


I firmly believe that little angel stayed in my life just long enough to make sure I would be okay. He was a true angel in material form. I don’t know the secrets of life and death — these things remain a mystery to us all for good reason. However, I do know that energy is never created or destroyed, and that little guy powered enough love energy to heal the world. I have no doubt his spirit is off being someone else’s angel at this very moment.


I also don’t know what the future will bring for sure. I only know he showed me the way. I have big plans for the nonprofit I’ve been dreaming of building that are all inspired by him, but I don’t know if it will ever come to fruition. I know I’m assembling the parts, with Poe’s love and guidance, and it gives me a reason to go on, a purpose, something to work toward.


Poe taught me so much. He taught me how to persevere in the face of overwhelming odds. He taught me how to accept suffering with grace, and how to look for the beauty, the goodness, the compassion and caring in life when it seemed like there was none. He was the gentlest soul I have ever known, and taught me how mildness can in reality be great strength, far more powerful than harsh and angry words. Most of all, he taught me that love is the most binding glue, the real reason we all are here, and the one thing that goes on long after we are gone.


If a cat can attain Buddhahood, I have no doubt in my mind. Poe was a Buddha.



Safe travels, wise and dear one.

Thank you for your many lessons.

Your legacy will live forever.

So will my love for you, my son.

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